Below are some questions I thought you might have, but please do not hesitate to get in touch if you have any further questions.
I’m nervous about starting therapy. Is that normal?
It’s totally normal to be nervous about starting therapy. It can be hard to talk about feelings out loud. The fear around that can feel overwhelming. It takes courage to start going to therapy. The fact that you are on this website, looking for help, and reading this right now shows that you are being brave and seeking help.
Therapy is a space where you can be yourself and bring up whatever is going on for you, including feeling nervous. I’m committed to finding a way to care for your nervousness and ensure sessions are as comfortable as possible.
I’m here if you want to talk about it during a first session.
How do I know if you are the right therapist for me?
Take your time to read through my website. If you sense that I may be a good fit based on what you are reading, you can Email me.
During a first session, you’ll be able to share what’s going on for you and I can share my ideas around how I can help you, and you can ask me ask how I work as a therapist, or any other questions you may have.
It may be helpful to think of the first few sessions as trying out the waters together. During the session, you’ll be able to see how you feel working with me. My approach is not going to work for everyone. What’s most important to me is that you find someone who you feel is the right fit for you. We can explore that together.
What if I don't want to talk about something?
It’s normal if you don’t feel ready to share everything. During our sessions, you never have to talk about something you’re not comfortable talking about. It’s my job to give you space to slowly start to work through the tough stuff. Gradually and at a pace that feels comfortable to you, you can share what you feel ready to share.
You can also share with me that you are nervous to open up about something and we can talk about that too. Whatever is present for you. Whatever you are going through. Bring that to session and we can explore that together.
I’m scared that if I open up, you will think I’m too sensitive.
If you open up to me, I will not think you are too sensitive, I will think you are extremely brave and strong. Many of my clients have had the same fear (that people would think they are too sensitive).
Through my own life journey and working with my clients, I know how ‘normal’ your experience is.
You're not being dramatic or "too much." Nothing you can say will cause me to judge you. Lots of people feel overwhelmed and emotionally drained from the ups and downs.
Whatever it is you're going through, I provide a safe space where you can feel heard and supported without judgement.
Does what we talk about in therapy remain confidential?
Your privacy and trust are of utmost importance.
I will discuss confidentiality with you when we first meet and if you have any questions about how confidentiality works, you can ask during your during a first session or anytime during our work together.
Can we meet or is therapy online?
You might be asking about how whether therapy will take place face to face or online. At present I am working online and it has worked really well for all my clients, but I am looking at adding face to face counselling back in shortly because I know that not everyone wants to have therapy online.
How long will therapy take?
You might be asking about how long therapy will take because you are currently struggling and want relief fast.
If this is true for you, I want you to know that my clients report feeling positive effects after the first couple of sessions, where they feel a little more calm and hopeful that healing is possible, but generally steady and careful and long lasting progress is made over a number of sessions. You are in control of the pace and how long you wish to have therapy for.
The total duration of therapy varies from client to client. Some of my clients find 8-16 weeks to be enough to resolve immediate challenges. While other clients feel more supported by longer term therapy.
We will work together to find the length of time that works for you.
What can I expect during the first session?
Overall, you can think of the first session as a free-flowing conversation through which we start getting to know each other. I’ll invite you to share more about yourself and we can also talk about what’s worked or not worked for your mental health in the past.
Some questions that I like to ask during a first session include:
What brought you to therapy?
What goals would you like to reach by going to therapy?
What do I need to know about you to understand your current challenges?
You can ask me questions as well. You might be curious about why I'm a therapist or how I've helped other clients like you.
The most important part of a first session is to experience what therapy is like with me. If you feel safe, accepted, and comfortable with me, we can discuss if you’d like to meet again.
How can I get started?
Send me an email and we can arrange a time for that first initial session where you can share what’s going on for you and I can share my ideas around how I can help you. There is no obligation to continue beyond that if you don’t feel I am the right therapist for you.
Email me at any time to discuss how I might be able to help.